Transformation can never take place until you enter into the spiritual disciplines as modeled by Christ. The first of these is the renewal of the mind.
Until we can learn to make time to care for our souls, we will struggle to connect to God in a meaningful way.
To keep the commands of Christ, you must first embrace the life He lived.
Dallas Willard said: "Grace is opposed to earning, not to effort." We are commanded to be transformed, and this only happens when we purpose to enter in the transformation process.